When you find yourself in a situation with someone, who is attempting to pressure you to do something that you do not want to do, just say No. Do not concern yourself about hurting their feelings, do not worry that they will not want to see you again. Worry only about your own feelings, and thoughts. Do not ever allow yourself to be 'talked' into doing anything that you do not want to do!!
Steps
1) Make eye contact. It is important that anyone seeing the interaction understands and believes that you are serious. Take a deep breath. Do not smile! Make them take you seriously!
2) Shout NO! loudly and with conviction. That should surprise the perpetrator enough to stop the current situation and give you time to explain or put distance between you.
3) Maintain eye contact so they understand that you are serious and must deal with the situation.
4) Walk away immediately. Do not stick around to hear this person trying to convince you what he or she wanted to do was something you wanted also.
5) Say No, then GO. Unless the other person is instantly apologizing and assuring you he or she will not repeat the behavior, there is nothing left to say.
Tips
When you say No mean No. Make sure that your verbal signals are clear and precise. Never say "No" with a smile, or they will think you really are saying 'yes'.
Always follow though with your convictions. If you say no, then the answer is no, and must remain no until something changes.
In romantic situations if there is no response to your loud and emphatic NO, and you can't walk away, use the open palm of your hand to hit the offender in the nose with an upward motion; do not use a fist - an open hand is more effective. Regardless of what Hollywood would have you think, this will not kill him. It will give him a bloody (and possibly broken) nose.
Remember that even though men generally don't strike women, bad things have happened when a man feels you have "led him on" and then denied him something. He may feel humiliated and angry, and may become aggressive. Aggressive outbursts in these situations have occurred involving even extremely low-key and mellow men. If you have had to resort to physical force in order to stop a man from touching you when you have asked him to stop, it is a dangerous situation. It shows that he was already prepared to use force to get his way, and the pain may fuel his anger considerably.
While it is taught that a man does not strike a woman, in certain dangerous situations, a man might be the one who is being assaulted and attacked. In a situation such as this, the man might have to use any means available to protect himself when saying 'no' is not enough.
If you find you are engaged in a serious physical struggle and you fear that you will be injured seriously OR raped, as odd as it seems, there are some over-the-top things you can try, which certainly couldn't hurt: try acting crazy (shouting weird, nonsensical phrases, foaming at the mouth or drooling), throwing up if you can, peeing your pants, etc. It sounds bizarre, but if you can do something disgusting, it may shut down the physical struggle and give you time to escape. All's fair in situations like this.
Warnings
Saying 'NO', and then acting coy, or smiling, will only give someone the idea that you really do not want him or her to stop! Do not give mixed signals.
Remember the rhyme. Say NO then GO. Better not to fight or argue, just leave.
With the increase of sex "commercialization", more and more people feel pressured every day to take part in sex—especially premarital sex. It may be against your religious beliefs. You may simply want to wait until you are married. Or, you simply are not ready to have sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend just yet. Whatever the scenario may be, here are some tips to help you say no to sex.
Steps
Tell your significant other how you feel. Sex is certainly not an area to rush in to. Without taking proper precautions, the consequences can impact the rest of your life.
Don't give in to societal peer pressure. Don't fall under the impression that just because "everyone else is doing it", that you should do it too. Remember that many people are all "talk", and may brag about how much sex they may be getting, when the truth is only a fraction of what they are actually telling you. Their insincerity in the matter is not a worthwhile reason to change your beliefs altogether.
Don't give in to pressure from your significant other. If they say, "If you really loved me you would", you must recognize that they are most likely trying to manipulate you. Manipulation, particularly when it comes to sex, is not a sign of a healthy relationship, and you should reconsider your relationships standing. If your significant other truly cares about you, he or she will respect your wish not to rush into sex.
Defend your reasons for not wishing to have sex. Here are some reasons to defend your argument:
"I don't want to risk an STD." Sexually transmitted diseases are more common than meets the eye. While your chances of making contact with an individual with AIDS or HIV may be slimmer, realize that there are many other threats. Some of these include gonorrhea, syphilis, and genital herpes.
"I don't want to risk getting (you) pregnant." Even if you are practicing sex safe sex and utilizing proper contraception, pregnancy is still a very realistic outcome. It is a serious matter, especially when you are not ready for it. Having a child can impact your life tremendously by costing not only your money, but also your time. It also gives rise to many other contemporary moral issues, such as deciding whether to keep the baby, or to undergo an abortion.
"I want to wait until I'm married." Whether a personal preference or a religious requirement, there is nothing wrong with preserving the sanctity of sex by waiting until you are married.
"I want to respect my parents' wishes." Remember that pregnancy is a life-altering experience. It will not only affect you, but also your family.
Tips
When you are saying no, use a firm voice that shows you are serious.
If your significant other tries to break up with you, then let them. A true relationship isn't based on sex.
Don't have sex just because someone wants you to. It is as much your choice as it is theirs.
Warnings
If you don't think about the consequences of your actions, your life could be changed forever.
Source: www.wikihow.com
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