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Re: [Shadeshi_Bondhu] salam

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On Fri, Mar 7, 2008 at 12:36 AM, ♪ bLuE BoY ♪ ««« <pramiti.riday@gmail.com> wrote:
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Re: [Shadeshi_Bondhu] salam

oiLcome to SB ...

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On Fri, Mar 7, 2008 at 12:36 AM, ♪ bLuE BoY ♪ ««« <pramiti.riday@gmail.com> wrote:

walaikum assalam
welcome to our group SB! tell us more abt u.. hope u'll enjoy being wid us..
stay cool... :)
 
 


 
On Wed, Mar 5, 2008 at 1:34 AM, javed abedin <javed_abedin2001@yahoo.com> wrote:
salam sobaike..
ami apnader ekjon notun bondhu
asha kori valobashar sathe apnara amake accept korben...
r sodeshi bondhu te join hote pere ami ottonto anonodito,,,
apnara valo thakben...
asha korbo ekti chotto reply



 



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[Shadeshi_Bondhu] Love- Romance-Marriage : Relationship between Sexes

There is a difference between love and romance. Romance, if not checked, may mean wasting time, effort and dignity. Islam teaches us to be truthful and realistic. Besides, the concept of love in Islam is very unique, when a Muslim loves something or somebody, it must be for the sake of Allah; the same applies to hatred. Islam teaches us that marriage is the finest, purest and permissible relationship that should exist between a male and female; it should be the goal that they both have in mind. There is no room in Islam for illicit affairs or the Western vogue-word of boyfriend and girlfriend. All those stories of media and movies are not helpful to make a person comply with the teachings of Islam. Infact,love is a fruit of piety. Love without piety is mischief.

There is no concept of courtship in Islam as it is practiced in the West. There is no dating or living in "de facto" relationship or trying each other out before committing to each other. There is to be no physical relationship whatsoever before marriage. The romantic notions that occupy the mind of young people often have proven in most cases to be unrealistic and harmful to those involved. We only have to look at the alarming divorce rate in the West to understand this point. To give an example, the couple know each other for years, are intimate, live together and so on. Yet somehow this does not guarantee the success of the future marriage.
Romance and love simply do
not result in an everlasting bond between two people.

In most cases, romance and love die out very quickly when couple find themselves with the real world. The unrealistic expectation that young people have is what often contributes to the failure of their relationship.

The West makes fun of the Islamic way of marriage, in particular arranged marriage. Yet, the irony is that statistically arranged marriages prove to be more successful and lasting than romantic types of courtship. This is because people are blinded by the physical attraction and thus do not choose the compatible partner. Love blinds people to the extent of overlooking potential problems in the relationship. Arranged marriages, on the other hand, are based not on physical attraction or romantic notions, but rather on critical evaluation of the compatibility of the couple. That is why such marriage often proves successful.

From an Islamic perspective, in choosing a partner, the most important factor that should be taken into consideration is Taqwa (i.e. piety and consciousness of Allah). The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) recommended the suitors to see each other before going through with marriage procedures. That is very important because it is unreasonable for two people to be thrown into marriage and be expected to have a successful marital life, full of love and affection, when they know nothing of each other. The couple are permitted to look at each other.

This ruling does not contradict the Qur'anic verse that says, "believing men and women should lower their gaze" ( Surah An-Nur: 30). The couple, however, are not permitted to be alone in a closed room or go out together alone. As the Hadith says: "When a man and a woman are together alone, the Shaytan (Satan) makes their third." One of the conditions of a valid marriage is the consent of the couple. Marriage by definition is a voluntary union of two people. The choice of a partner by a Muslim virgin girl is subject to the approval of the father or guardian. This is to safeguard her welfare and interests. The Prophet( peace and blessings be upon him) said: " The widow and the divorced woman shall not be married until she has consented to that and the virgin shall not be married until her consent is sought." The Prophet (Sallalla-hu 'alaihi wa'sallaam) did nullify the marriage of a girl who complained to him that her father had married her against her wishes.

Though love is something nice, and it is recommended for a man to marry a woman whom he loves, because the Prophet (Sallalla-hu 'alaihi wa'sallaam) said: "There is nothing better for two who love each other than marriage." (Sahih Al-Jami`, Hadith no- 5200) However, this love should not be overwhelming and cause a person to forget other characteristics which he should look for in the person he wants to marry. The most important characteristic is religious commitment. The Prophet (Pbuh) says: "A woman may be married for four things: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty and her commitment to religion. Choose the one who is religious, may your hands be rubbed with dust [i.e., may you prosper]!" (Agreed-upon Hadith).

Islam teaches us to be truthful and realistic. Usually, we love because of Allah and we hate because of Allah. Islam teaches us that a male and female can build up a good relationship founded on marriage. All those stories of media and movies are not helpful to make a person comply with the teachings of Islam.

We do not say love is "Halal" or "Haram" because it is a feeling. Maybe it is not under control. You can judge what is under control. But people who fall in love are in many episodes away from the cleansed and pure atmosphere.

Marriages that are usually good and lasting marriages are those that start at the least affection. That affection grows after marriage and maybe it will grow until the couples continue their companionship at the Jannah.

In this context, we'd like to cite the following fatwa that clarifies the Islamic ruling on falling in love:

" If we are speaking about the emotion which we call "love" then we are simply speaking of a feeling.
What we feel toward a particular person is not of great importance, until our feeling is expressed in a particular action. Now if that action is permissible, then well and good. If it is forbidden, then we have incurred something that Allah does not approve of. If it is love between a man and a woman, the emotion itself is not the subject of questioning on the Day of Judgment. If you feel you love someone, then you cannot control your feeling. If that love prompts you to try to see that person in secret and to give expression to your feelings in actions permissible only within the bond of marriage then what you are doing is forbidden."
(Excerpted, from: www.islamicity.com)

Shedding more light on the issue in point we'd like to cite the words of Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a senior lecturer and an Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada. He states:

"In Islam, it is not a sin if you feel a special affinity or inclination towards a certain individual since human beings have no control on such natural inclinations. We are, however, definitely responsible and accountable if we get carried away by such feelings and take specific actions or steps that might be deemed as haram (forbidden).

As far as male and female interaction is concerned, Islam dictates strict rules: It forbids all forms of 'dating' and isolating oneself with a member of the opposite sex, as well indiscriminate mingling and mixing.

If, however, one does none of the above, and all that he or she wants is to seriously consider marrying someone, such a thing itself is not considered haram. In fact, Islam encourages us to marry persons for whom we have special feelings and affinity. Thus, Islam recommends that potential marriage partners see one another before proposing marriage. Explaining the reason for such a recommendation, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "That would enhance/foster the bonding."

This permission notwithstanding
, we are advised against getting carried away by merely the outward appearances of a person; these may be quite misleading. Marriage is a life-long partnership and a person's real worth is determined not by his or her physical looks, but more so by the inner person or character. Hence, after having mentioned that people ordinarily look for beauty, wealth and family in a marriage partner, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) advised us to consider primarily "the religious or character factor" over and above all other considerations."
(Excerpted, from:
www.muslims.ca)
 
 
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[Shadeshi_Bondhu] The difference between "A Noble Sentiment" and "Fake love".

" Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."
                                                                            -http://www.quoteland.com/


In the good old days, when everything was true and there was no place for "fake" values, love meant a noble sentiment that tied up two persons together and made them dream of getting united for the rest of their life. Their true feeling stimulated both of them to take responsible action towards the realization of their dream.

Such love, which helps one attain his psychological, emotional and physical satisfaction that creates balance in his life, is most welcome in Islam.
Hazrat Ibn Abbas (Ra)narrated that: "A man came to the Prophet (Sallalla-hu 'alaihi wa'sallaam ) saying: 'O Messenger of Allah, I am in charge of an orphan girl, two men proposed to marry her; one is rich the other is poor, we like the rich whereas she likes the poor.' Thereupon the Prophet said: 'We don't see any thing for two people in love better than getting married.'" (Ibn Majah & Tabarani Sharif hadith)


There are many such examples, proving that Islam respects the true, noble and serious love. But nowadays, the word
"love" has got other connotations and refers to other types of relationships. One of which resembles a game of chess, just to enjoy a few hours and then farewell. The couple may be planning for the way they separate even before they start the affair!

Love may also refer to the physical relationship, as it is a more decent word for "sex". Instead of saying: "make sex," they say "make love''
( It is easy to see that premarital sex is self-seeking. It is not love ! Premarital sex can detract from a strong relationship. All too often, premarital sex ends up a self-seeking, self-gratifying experience. After intercourse, one partner might be saying "I love you" while the other is thinking "I love it." Pre-marital sex is not Patient. So, IT is rather the LUst. Sex is created for marriage--a long-lasting commitment between a couple.A relationship based on lust can only last as long as the two are physically close and find each other sexually attractive)
 
Being a Muslim one must be aware that sex outside marriage is totally forbidden in Islam. Islam calls it "zinah" (fornication) and it is heavily punished in both this world and the Hereafter. Many Qur'anic verses and Prophetic sayings acknowledge that.

Man and woman are both born with this natural affiliation or desire between them. Allah never looks down upon this desire in contempt. It is He who created it in people in order to make them happy and preserve the human race from extinction. Nevertheless, we have to be aware that the sparkle of this desire is created by the natural attraction when a man and a woman come into close intimacy with one another. Thus, Allah who created this desire in us is, simultaneously, very strict in observing the way we direct it.

This aimless type of love may lead - with the power of nature - to doubtful relationships, which in turn, leads one to moral degeneration and psychological restlessness
. The Prophet (pbuh) confirmed in the following hadith that what is doubtful definitely leads to what is forbidden. He (pbuh) said: " That which is lawful is plain and that which is unlawful is plain. Between the two of them are doubtful matters, about which not many people know. Thus he who avoids doubtful matters clears himself in regard to his religion and his honor, but he who falls into doubtful matters falls into that which is unlawful."(Bukhari and Muslim Sharif hadith)

Therefore, Allah - out of mercy towards his servants - prescribed practical ways by which they close the door before the temptations of such random and hazardous relations, for as it usually said:
"An ounce of prevention, is better than a pound of cure."
For example, He did this by warning men and women against sending unnecessary and unrestrained looks when they happen to deal with one another. Also, by directing women and girls to observe the propriety of their clothes to protect themselves from the lustful looks. Allah (s.w.t) says:
"Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: And God is well acquainted with all that they do.
And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband's fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O ye Believers! turn ye all together towards God, that ye may attain Bliss.
(Surah No - 24 An-Nur : Ayah 30–31)
 
 
The Prophet (Sallalla-hu 'alaihi wa'sallaam ) also Warned against that a man and a woman should stay together alone when he said:
"A man should not stay with a woman in seclusion unless he is a dhu-mahram (A person who is legally not allowed to marry that woman e.g. her father or her brother.)" (Sahih Bukhari Sharif hadith)
He (Peace be upon him) also said in the same context, while delivering a sermon:
"No person should be alone with a woman, except when there is a mahram with her." (Sahih Muslim sharif hadith)
 
All of this does not mean that We cannot talk to boys/girls and work with them in school, university, or the workplace. It means that We should keep some sort of emotional (and physical) distance from them (i.e. members of opposite sex.) When we have to talk with a boy/girl about school/university or work, should keep the conversation on track with our work.We must Make a real effort to not be alone with a boy/Girl. We can be friendly with male/Female colleagues, but we must keep that friendliness confined to the school or workplace, and should not focus that friendliness on any one boy/girl.Friendships between Muslims of the opposite sex should always be kept on a very formal basis. Saying "As-salamu `alaykum" or having casual conversation is the quite innocent contact recommended

Such a life style, which deals with a boy friend and a girl friend as necessities of life, came to us from other societies that are different from us. We should not feel inferior because we are not allowed to do the same things they do. We should be proud of the teachings of our religion.

When Allah guides us to such virtues, He does not want to give us a hard time. On the contrary, He wants to spare us the hard time decadent societies usually suffer, as a result of submitting themselves to the demands of their carnal desires
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Written by -
Amani Aboul Fadl Farag
http://www.readingislam.com/
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[Shadeshi_Bondhu] Does size of tax-net depend on tax-rate?

Does size of tax-net depend on tax-rate?
This is a question that the new NBR Chief, Finance Adviser and the Chief Adviser needs to think about.

The current NBR Chief seems much effective compared to his predecessors, so far. Hope he becomes much more innovative and dynamic too. Today we would like to point out one issue today.

We would like you to consider whether lowering the tax rate would widen the tax-net. If it does, NBR should not hesitate to lower the tax  rate.

To many it might be counter intuitive. But believe me, it is a better option.

There might be a scenario which says if you decrease the tax rate by 40%, the tax-net widens by 65% or 45% or 50%. Whatever that is, its very good.

But if a 40% decrease in tax rate results in 40% widening of tax-net, should you decrease it?

There might be many 50+ policymakers in Bangladesh right now, who would suggest you not to consider this. They will say to you that it does not help, since the total revenue of the government would not increase. Shudhu shudhu vejal barbe, kaj barbe without any tangible benefit, they would opine.

They could not be more wrong.

Even if the total revenue remains the same (i.e. if these two things are equally or perfectly elastic within certain limit), it will still be beneficial for the country. If you don't understand it, don't be ashamed. Just do it. You will see the result. But I am sure it will be evident.
 
To name a few, if the widening rate is same as decreasing rate of tax-rate (i.e. if the total revenue do not increase and the same amount of money is collected from more more people and businesses and it involves more work on the part of NBR),  its still a better option for Bangladesh. It will create more level playing field for those taxpayers who abide by the law. Also, it will increase the productivity of the already law abiding businesses which will eventually increase the revenue of the NBR in years to come. More importantly, it will create more jobs.

If you thought some of the ideas are worth of your reading time, please forward it to others. If you have an ear to the columinsts in regular traditional media, please forward it to them. If you have an ear to the journalists and news editors of the electronic media, discuss it with them. Hope they would look at the suggestions and give due diligence.  
 
Thanks for your time,
Innovation Line
 
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Note: This is a freelance column, published mainly in different internet based forums. This column is open for contribution by the members of new generation, sometimes referred to as Gen 71. If you identify yourself as someone from that age-group and want to contribute to this column, please feel free to contact. Thanks to the group moderator for publishing the article.
 
Dear readers, also, if you thought the article was important enough so it should come under attention of the head of the government please forward the message to them. Email address for the Chief Advisor: feeedback@pmo.gov.bd or at http://www.cao.gov.bd/feedback/comments.php . The more of you forward it to them, the less will be the need to go back to street agitation. Use ICT to practice democracy. It is already proven that this government responds to the feedback.

You can also send it to Bangladesh Bank at this email:  gm2combb@bangla.net

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walaikum assalam
welcome to our group SB! tell us more abt u.. hope u'll enjoy being wid us..
stay cool... :)
 
 


 
On Wed, Mar 5, 2008 at 1:34 AM, javed abedin <javed_abedin2001@yahoo.com> wrote:
salam sobaike..
ami apnader ekjon notun bondhu
asha kori valobashar sathe apnara amake accept korben...
r sodeshi bondhu te join hote pere ami ottonto anonodito,,,
apnara valo thakben...
asha korbo ekti chotto reply



 
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